As I was skimming through some posts today on Facebook, I came across a post from a blog the caught my attention. The title of the post was Modest is NOT Hottest, and I was intrigued as to what was in the article. I read the article about modesty, and realized where the phrase I have often heard and said was 'not true.' It was actually quite a good article and I suggest you read it yourself so you know fully where I'm coming from. Here: http://mylifeasacraig.blogspot.com/2014/06/modest-is-not-hottest.html
This article was written by a young women and wife, telling how young girls and women need to dress modestly and not try to be hot, or sexy, or sexually appealing at all. She explains how the phrase is contradicting in the sense that we cannot be modest, by trying to be hot and attract the attention of boys or men.
I believe so much in the concept of being modest, and it disheartens me every time I see certain girls dressed in degrading ways just to get the attention of boys. But not only do I dress modestly to keep the young men around me safe from bad thought, but I mainly do it for myself. There have been times that I have worn a shirt or skirt and have felt so uncomfortable because the neck line is too low, or it's inching up too high. I dress modestly so that I feel comfortable. I dress so that I feel protected from unwanted eyes and so that I feel safe and confident. I don't even know if this makes any sense, but I just want everyone to know how important modesty is to me, and that I think it is so so SO important.
I don't normally read the comments on blogs or posts, but I decided to do just that this time. I was shocked as I kept reading down the comments and sub-comments, how many negative things were said about this wonderful post I had just read and completely agreed with! So many comments, I felt, try to make our standards, MY standards, sound horrible and bad. They made my beliefs sound wicked and inappropriate. I can't help but want to scream that I know that the things mentioned in the actual post and my standards are true! Dressing modestly isn't just so that we can keep young mens' minds clean, but to also protect what is most precious to us, to me.
As I was reading these things, I was reminded of a young man, a dear friend, who showed a high standard for modesty the other day that impressed me deeply. We had gotten our yearbooks, and a group of us had noticed a picture of a friend (we'll call him Rob) dancing with his preference date. One of our friends commented saying that it was a good picture of Rob, and asked my friend if he agreed. My friend replied strongly saying that of course it wasn't, because he was dancing with an immodest girl! Even though the girl was wearing something that was actually more modest than others at that dance, I was gladdened to here that my friend still realized it to be immodest and inappropriate.
I just wish every young man and woman felt as strongly as I do about modesty. It's one of the most important standards to me. (Of course, all of my standards are important..) Why get to know a person's body when you can get to know the actual person? We can all help one another out, and maybe find that eternal companion of our own if we all try a little harder to be modest, eh?
Sorry about my confusing rant, but it is my firm belief that modesty should not be considered lightly, but that everyone should exercise being modest to the fullest extent. Modest is the best way to be!
